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Access Denied. Seek Assistance.

There are times in life when you feel that the Universe is telling you, “Access Denied. Seek Assistance.”

When this happens, what are you supposed to do?  Go get help is the obvious answer, right?  However, how many of us actually do that?  How many times do we experience resistance?  Or, stop our own forward movement?

Too many times to count even if we use every single New Yorkers hands, toes and ears.

But it doesn’t have to be like this.  Access denied happens many times because of our own thinking/beliefs/hangups/inner demons.

Sure it’s easy to say, Stop it. Think positively. Focus on the bright side.  Yet, are we? Do we really stop, take 3 or 4 deep breaths pushing out our abdomens and sucking it all the way in as we we were trying to have our tummy touch our spine? [This presses on the pneumogastric nerve (aka vagas nerve) causing a cessation of the emotion/energy coursing through you. Once the emotion(s) cease, you can think more clearly and make a different decision than you would have under the influence of the emotional charge.]

Did you step away from the situation, if only in your mind/thoughts, and review what just transpired while still doing deep breathing?

This can be quick; done within moments of the triggering situation but taking the time to breathe allows you to re-group and re-center so you can present yourself in the best light possible in the situation.  This way, you don’t go into the Access Denied mode.

Once the situation has passed, you can then seek assistance from a trusted friend/family member, or colleague.  Get a fresh take on the situation viewing it from their objective standpoint.  Maybe the situation will become crystal clear.  Maybe you might need to sleep on it for a night, or two, before clarity &/or understanding comes.  But know that understanding will come.

As time marches past, I learn more about self-restraint, being more observant and doing what our grandmothers used to tell us to do, to ‘put yourself in their shoes’ (the other person in the situation).

However, in order for that to be effective, we have to be peaceful within our hearts and minds.  And in our world of instant gratification, endless voyeurism because we can see into every one else’s lives on social media, and consumerism it’s more than difficult to  be happy with the person we see in the mirror each morning.  But we must.

Oscar Wilde had it right.  Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken. By being yourself, you will have the ultimate pass and your access will always be granted in ways that will delight and surprise you,